~ [[PKM & Magic]] by [[Lauren Valdez]] x [[New Moon Reflective Ritual Process]] y [[2025 moon calendar]] [link](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-wy_nVFL22rvFYgOPjE3YpbBIBrbvvJWwpl_25f5TyY/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.oj013s22hp3) *** update:: 2025-07-10 05:47 # The Actionable Ritual ## THE PREP Time - 3 days before/after the full moon - No interruptions - Align with personal Rythms Space - Quiet, comfortable location - Support Reflection and Introspection - Create mood lighting - Reflective Music - Temperature comfort Tools - My Journal - for Intentions & Visions - Favorite writing tools - My spirit/meaningful tools Atmosphere - Playlist for emotional depth - Favorite beverage - Aromatherapy Personalize - Make my Altar - Design my special area (My Alien Lab) - Include elements of spirit and culture background - Objects of personal meaning ## THE PRACTICE (my edits) ### Step 1 - Grounding & Transition - Transition from daily activities to a more reflective headspace. Slow-down. Entering a Sacred Time. - Meditation - Stretching - Movement practices - Deep breath exercises - Mindful walking - A Song that settles myself ### Step 2 - Compassionate Reflection - Check-in with myself. Temperature check on areas of my life important to me. - Taking time to reflect on misaligned actions to expectations - be grateful - Celebrate small wins **Theatre/Acting** - How to craft tales for kids that shows how to use PKM Systems? - How to use art/acting to compite against myself and become better person? - What is the main problem around creativity that no one is aware of? - Dónde habita el duende? - How can I use Atomic Habits to Elite Perform my Artistic Career? **Wealth/Finances** - Qué es lo que no me apetece en esta época que no quiero hacer pero que es necesario tomar acción? - How can I simplify this into a One-Sentence Question/Statement? How can I develop this sentence into a Paragraph/Sheet/Chapter/Book? - What does actually ‘play with the money means’? Or ‘play the game of money’? - How can I leverage my processes to gain money through PKM? - ![[Atoms - Lesson 4#^tefb4b]] - ![[Atoms - Lesson 4#^8w0vqk]] %% **Sex Magic with Women** - How to lead encounters with women so the encounter lead to sex? - How can I use my second brain and ideaverse to get laid with 2 women per week? - ¿Cómo puedo tener mi energía masculina en alto y tener un cuerpo amoroso y abierto para mis novias/compañeras? - How can I make date and sex with women so easy that it becomes my default? - How can I make women laugh? %% **Self-Care** - How am I caring for my physical and emotional well-being? (sleep, exercise, nutrition, meditation, journaling, etc) - What does my body need right now? - When is my Hibernation time? **Receiving & Support** - What gifts am I currently receiving? - Where could I ask for more help? - What support am I resistant to accepting? **Boundaries** - Where am I setting and holding healthy boundaries? - Where might I need to create new boundaries? - How am I honoring my own limits? **Community** - How am I showing up for my community? - Where is community showing up for me? - What opportunities exist to deepen my connections? - How can I nurture my existing relationships? **Leaps of Faith** - What uncertainties am I currently navigating? - Where am I "mid-air" in life's transitions? - What leaps have landed well? **New Moon Intention Check-in** - How am I progressing with my new moon intention? - What adjustments does my intention need? - ![[New Moon Reflective Ritual Process#^ijc1tb]] - ![[New Moon Reflective Ritual Process#^e7mtg9]] **Breakthroughs** - What victories, large or small, have I experienced? - Which challenges have become easier? - What new skills or habits are emerging? - What projects have I completed? - What personal growth am I noticing? - How can I take the reaction with the beer on New Years Eve to the concrete efforts in the physical world and transform it into millions of dollars and time for developing and leveraging my artistic career? ### Step 3 - Illumination Practice - Illuminate what needs to transform. Identify what we want to shift from shadow to light. - Use short, powerful phrases with arrows to indicate transformation from where I currently am to where I want to be. - Keep them brief - e.g. \- Writing struggle → Writing habit \- Working alone → Collaborating \- Releasing clutter → Sacred space \- Controlling kids → Connecting with kids \- Screens → Paper \- TV time → Reading time \- Resistance → Surrender ### Step 4 - Fulfillment Reflection - Reflect on - What's currently Fulfilling - List what bring joy and satisfaction - Aspects - Relationships - Projects - Ways of being - What's not Fulfilling - Identify areas that feel stagnant or draining - Notice where I might need to make changes - Consider what support I need in those areas ### Step 5 - Closure - Seal my intention and honor the sacred time created. - e.g. \- Draw oracle or tarot cards \- Read from a meaningful text \- Perform a brief meditation \- Light a candle with a final intention \- Say a prayer from your tradition \- Engage in gentle movement or dance \- Ring a bell or singing bowl \- Express gratitude for specific aspects of your life \- Write a closing affirmation \- Burn a small piece of paper with what you're releasing \- Take three deep breaths with specific intentions \- Sing or chant \- Offer a blessing ### Tips - Make it personal - Customize the reflection areas to my personal focus - Align check-ins with annual intentions - Add questions that relate to specific ways of being I'm cultivating - Feel free to adapt it - There's no "perfect" way to practice - Start small - Trust my intuition - Consider share this practice occasionally - Be flexible with timing around full moon > Each time you show up for this ritual, you're strengthening your connection to yourself and your intentions. This regular check-in helps you stay aligned with your values and intentions while acknowledging your growth journey. %% *** # DIY Full Moon Ritual Guide: Embracing Cycles of Renewal ## Introduction: Understanding Lunar Cycles The moon has been a source of wisdom, guidance, and ritual across cultures and throughout human history. Its 28-day cycle has shaped calendars, traditions, and human practices for millennia, with many cultures still following lunar calendars today. This connection isn't merely symbolic – the moon's influence on our planet is profound, most visibly demonstrated through ocean tides, but potentially extending to human biology and behavior as well. Considering that human bodies are predominantly water (approximately 60%), some theorize that lunar cycles might affect us in subtle ways. The average menstrual cycle is 28-days and more women go into labor on the full moon than other days. The word "lunacy" itself derives from "lunar," reflecting ancient observations about the moon's perceived influence on human behavior, that our energy is at its fullest on the full moon. ### The Natural Rhythm of Cycles In our modern world, progress is often viewed as linear – a constant upward trajectory of growth and achievement. This perspective can lead to burnout and feelings of inadequacy when we inevitably need to rest or reset. The lunar cycle offers an alternative paradigm: one of natural cycles, where periods of growth, peak energy, release, and rest are not just normal but essential. The lunar cycle provides 12 opportunities throughout the year to set intentions and begin anew, contrasting with the singular focus of New Year's resolutions. This cyclical approach acknowledges that ==renewal isn't a once-a-year event but a continuous process that aligns with natural rhythms==. ### Understanding the Lunar Phases The lunar cycle can be divided into two primary phases, each with its distinct energy and purpose: **New Moon to Full Moon (Waxing Phase)** \- A period of increasing energy and growth \- Optimal time for creative work and project initiation \- Focus on building, creating, and manifesting intentions ==In the New Moon Ritual we did Jan 29th, we recapped the past moon cycle highlights, lowlights, areas we want to let go of, and then called in new energy and set an intention.== From the new moon to the full moon, while the energy of the moon is increasing, it’s a great time of creative and social energy. **Full Moon to New Moon (Waning Phase)** \- A time of gradual energy release \- Ideal for reflection, administrative tasks, and completion \- Emphasis on rest, recovery, and letting go ==The height of our energy is on the full moon, which makes it a great time for creativity, lovemaking, socializing, and reflecting. I like to align special occasions and even work project deadlines with the full moon.== From the full moon to the new moon, our energy starts to slow down. It’s a good time for releasing, letting go, and slowing down. ## Full Moon Ritual Guide: A Modern Approach to Ancient Wisdom A moon ritual transforms the concept of a monthly review from a potentially tedious task into a meaningful ritual. By incorporating elements of spiritual practice with practical goal-setting, we create a space for both personal development and self-reflection. This approach honors both the pragmatic need for regular life review and the soul's desire for ritual and meaning. In this guide, I give a model you can follow based on my practice, which suggestions for how to make it your own and develop a ritual that is uniquely you. ### Creating Your Sacred Space: Preparation & Setup **Timing Your Practice** The energy of the full moon isn't limited to a single night. You have flexibility in when you perform your ritual: \- Within 3 days before or after the full moon \- Choose a time when you won't be interrupted \- Consider aligning with personal rhythms (e.g., Sunday evenings for their spiritual quality) \- Adapt around your schedule (travel, family commitments, etc.) **Creating Your Ritual Environment** The space where you practice your ritual should support reflection and introspection. Here are elements to consider: **Physical Space** \- Find a quiet, comfortable location \- Create mood lighting (candles, dimmed lights) \- Play reflective music that helps you connect with your emotions \- Consider temperature comfort (cozy blankets, warm beverages) **Sacred Tools** \- A dedicated journal (consider this your "spellbook" \- a special place for intentions and visions). \- Your favorite writing tools \- Meaningful objects for an altar: \- Photos of loved ones \- Items from significant travels \- Family heirlooms \- Natural objects \- Spiritual items **Ambiance** \- Create a playlist of music that helps you access your emotional depth \- Prepare your favorite tea or beverage \- Consider aromatherapy (incense, essential oils, candles) **Personal Touches** Remember that your ritual space should reflect your personal practice. Some ideas to consider: \- Create a dedicated altar in your space \- Designate a special area (My office I call my “fem goddess room”) \- Include elements that represent your spiritual or cultural background \- Incorporate objects that hold personal meaning ### The Ritual Practice **Step 1: Grounding & Transition** The first step of your ritual is creating a mindful transition from your daily activities into a more contemplative state. This transition helps you shift from the often rushed energy of day-to-day life into a slower, more reflective headspace. Ways to Ground Yourself: \- Meditation \- Gentle stretching \- Movement practices \- Deep breathing exercises \- Mindful walking \- A song that settles you The key is to find a grounding practice that resonates with you and helps you slow down. This doesn't need to be lengthy—even a few mindful breaths can help signal to your body and mind that you're entering sacred time. I typically begin with either meditation or gentle stretching set to music. This helps me release the tensions of the day and arrive fully in the present moment for my ritual work. **Step 2: Compassionate Reflection** After grounding yourself, the next phase of the ritual focuses on intentional reflection across different areas of your life. This isn't meant to be a harsh assessment but rather a compassionate check-in with yourself. Think of it like a temperature check on areas of your life that are important to you. Take it as an opportunity to reflect and recognize where you may need to recalibrate. If you realize your actions or attitude are not aligned with your expectations, instead of being hard on yourself, thank yourself for taking the time to self-reflect and for your commitment to holding yourself to a higher standard. Make sure you are celebrating your small wins or progress you might be overlooking. This is about self-awareness not about self-judgement. Below I’ve included areas of my life that I reflect on, but feel free to make this your own. Respond to questions that speak to you, skip what doesn’t and add your own questions that represent areas of life that are important to you. Develop a set of reflection questions that you can consistently check in every full moon. These question might change as what you want to focus on in your life changes. **Self-Care** \- How am I caring for my physical and emotional well-being? (sleep, exercise, nutrition, meditation, journaling, etc) \- What does my body need right now? **Receiving & Support** \- What gifts am I currently receiving? \- Where could I ask for more help? \- What support am I resistant to accepting? **Boundaries** \- Where am I setting and holding healthy boundaries? \- Where might I need to create new boundaries? \- How am I honoring my own limits? **Community** \- How am I showing up for my community? \- Where is community showing up for me? \- What opportunities exist to deepen my connections? \- How can I nurture my existing relationships? **Leaps of Faith** \- What uncertainties am I currently navigating? \- Where am I "mid-air" in life's transitions? \- What leaps have landed well? **New Moon Intention Check-in** \- How am I progressing with my new moon intention? \- What adjustments does my intention need? **Breakthroughs** \- What victories, large or small, have I experienced? \- Which challenges have become easier? \- What new skills or habits are emerging? \- What projects have I completed? \- What personal growth am I noticing? ### Step 3: Illumination Practice The full moon is a powerful time to illuminate aspects of our lives that need transformation. This practice helps us identify what we want to shift from shadow into light. Use short, powerful phrases with arrows to indicate transformation from where you currently are to where you want to be. For example: \- Writing struggle → Writing habit \- Working alone → Collaborating \- Releasing clutter → Sacred space \- Controlling kids → Connecting with kids \- Screens → Paper \- TV time → Reading time \- Resistance → Surrender Keep these brief, using just 1-2 words on each side of the arrow. The simplicity helps maintain clarity about what you're transforming. ### Step 4: Fulfillment Reflection Take time to reflect on: **What's Currently Fulfilling:** \- List specific aspects, relationships, projects, or ways of being that bring you joy and satisfaction \- Notice patterns in what feels most alive and energizing **What's Not Fulfilling:** \- Identify areas that feel stagnant or draining \- Notice where you might need to make changes \- Consider what support you need in these areas ### Step 5: Closing the Ritual The closing of your ritual is a powerful way to seal your intentions and honor the sacred time you've created. Choose a closing practice that resonates with your spiritual or cultural background. Here are some suggestions: Closing Practice Ideas: \- Draw oracle or tarot cards \- Read from a meaningful text \- Perform a brief meditation \- Light a candle with a final intention \- Say a prayer from your tradition \- Engage in gentle movement or dance \- Ring a bell or singing bowl \- Express gratitude for specific aspects of your life \- Write a closing affirmation \- Burn a small piece of paper with what you're releasing \- Take three deep breaths with specific intentions \- Sing or chant \- Offer a blessing My Personal Practice: I close my ritual by drawing from my goddess oracle cards, which helps me receive final guidance and wisdom for the cycle ahead. ### Additional Tips for Your Moon Practice \- Make the practice personal to you \- Customize the reflection areas to align with your current life focus \- Align check-ins with your annual intentions or current life priorities \- Add questions that relate to specific ways of being you're cultivating \- Feel free to adapt this practice to your cultural or spiritual traditions \- Remember there's no "perfect" way to practice \- Start small and build your practice over time \- Trust your intuition about what elements to include or exclude \- Consider practicing with others occasionally for shared energy. I have done this ritual in women’s circles and with friends, my sisters and roommates. \- Be flexible with timing around the full moon The most important aspect of this practice is that it feels authentic and meaningful to you. Let it evolve as you do, and trust that each time you show up for this ritual, you're strengthening your connection to yourself and your intentions. Remember, the goal isn't to "fix" everything but to maintain awareness and connection with different aspects of your life. This regular check-in helps you stay aligned with your values and intentions while acknowledging your growth journey. **A Note on Consistency** Despite maintaining this practice for a decade, I'm not always consistent. There are times when I'm too busy, traveling, or honestly, just avoiding my feelings and the reflection that comes with this practice. And that's okay. What matters is that I always come back to it. Sometimes I find myself wanting to do my ritual while traveling, without any of my usual tools – no spellbook, no altar objects, nothing. In these moments, I simply find a pen and paper and do what I can. The heart of the practice isn't in the objects or setup – it's in the intention and reflection.