#examples #stress #strategy Inner thoughts that represent how I prioritize a [[Safety Provider]] over my own needs. > "The [[Safety Provider]]'s well-being, especially in times of stress, is more important than my own well-being because my life depends on them. To survive through the [[Safety Provider]] I down-regulate my own needs." > “It’s okay, even desirable, to support someone else by down-regulating myself, because it insures my own survival. It’s NOT okay to up-regulate myself because it threatens my connection to ‘[[Safety Provider]]’ and hence my chances of survival.” > “I am AFRAID to have needs and desires and express those desires and maybe even BOTHER someone with those needs because I FEAR that by bothering the ‘[[Safety Provider]]’, I will risk getting anything and FEAR that I will ‘starve’ to death.” > “I constantly monitor ([[Provider Stress Scanning]]) how the ‘[[Safety Provider]]’ is feeling at any given time. When I notice that the ‘[[Safety Provider]]’ in my life is stressed, it stresses me as well because my life is dependent on the well-being of the ‘[[Safety Provider]].’ If the ‘[[Safety Provider]]’ is at risk, my life, in turn is even more at risk. Monitoring the effects of others is EXHAUSTING.” > “Down-regulating my own needs, being actively passive is likely AS EXHAUSTING as taking action and taking care of myself.” > "My needs are irrelevant because it's more important that someone else is in a good state so they can nurture me." Is part of [[Dependence and Down-Regulation, Survival Strategy]].