# Passive-Aggressive Behavior Towards a Provider This is "putting on breaks", "sabotaging" is a behavior exhibited in a shared process between me and a [[Safety Provider]] where I feel like I'm not getting what I want. Passivity as a way to exert control in [[Dependence and Down-Regulation, Survival Strategy]], a way to deal with frustration. ## Potential examples: * "Not sending my timesheet in on time" to my Money [[Safety Provider]] C Space as a means to express my frustration and stress about work in general and working for half my rate. ## Why is this important? It's important because it is a means of control of a situation that seems out of control for myself. By stopping I can experience a certain calmness or control that I otherwise do not feel. ## What is exciting about it? Feeling in control in a time (Corona, uncertainty, etc.) with a lot of uncertainty is soothing and creates a sense of stability and predictability. ## What sucks about it? It undermines and sabotages the adult relationship long term. It creates mistrust, frustration, implicit problems, misunderstandings, feelings of guilt etc. ## What is this related to? This is one of the shadow-sides of [[Dependence and Down-Regulation, Survival Strategy]].