Author:: [[H H]] DateFinished:: URL:: https://www.happierhuman.com/hedonic-treadmill/ Rating:: Tags:: #aip # Hedonic Treadmill and Adaption Theory: A Brief Guide  [[Suffering comes from the clash of your desires and expectations with reality]] ## Highlights Rehdanz ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h03pzhxdd1w8j01he280db6e)) - Note: Attractiveness in relationships doesn’t lead to lifelong higher life satisfaction. You get used to the attractiveness of your partner. You take them for granted. Our perception of an event is largely controlled by our expectations of it. The higher our expectations the more likely we are to be disappointed. That’s why the Danish are so happy. They have low expectations. Variety helps us appreciate things more. Californians aren’t on average happier than non Californians even though the weather in California is so good. Californians stop appreciating the weather as much because there is little variation.